Three Ways to Make the Switch from Frump Mode to Fashionista

Make the switch from frump mode to fashionista in 3 easy steps

Have you ever wanted to make the switch from frump mode to fashionista?

If so, you are in the right place, friend!

How I Made the Switch from Frump Mode to Fashionista: My Story

In 2016, I had just had my fifth baby. I remember dragging myself into my closet each morning after a night of “mom sleep” … so basically, not much sleep happened.

I’d stand there in front of 75+ shirts, boatloads of jeans, skirts, dresses, and more than fifty pairs of shoes.

Looking at all those clothes, I felt incredibly overwhelmed. I would tell myself that nothing looked good on my body, and walk out. And then …  I’d pull on the same yoga pants from the day before and one of my husband’s tee shirts.

Sure, I’d experienced the miracle of growing and giving birth to a real, live human, but I still felt disappointed with the way my shape had changed. Just being real.

And you know what one of the craziest things was?

The non-solution

To help myself “feel better” about my wardrobe woes, I’d often go to the store and buy. more. clothes! I’d grab whatever looked cute on the rack, something trendy I’d seen a friend wearing, or something I’d seen on Pinterest.

I can’t even tell you how many times those retail therapy pieces ended up in the back of my closet, contributing to the clutter, instead of increasing my confidence and helping me to feel better about my body!

And of course, I’d go back to my friendly, but unflattering yoga pants and big, old t-shirt. Frump mode was in full effect, and I was so discouraged!

you can make the switch from frump mode to fashionista


The idea

One day I realized that I could start learning about what clothes would look good on my new shape and what colors would complement my skin tone.

I’ve always believed that knowledge brings power and confidence, so I started to do some research into style and fashion. I wasn’t looking for the cute, trendy things everyone was wearing.  Instead, I wanted to know how to help myself personally.

I researched every night for months. And as I learned how to flatter my body shape, dress to compliment my coloring, and how to style my clothes better, I started to feel my confidence grow.

3 Ways to Switch from From Frump Mode to Fashionista

Here are the three most beneficial things that helped me to make the switch from frump mode to fashionista:

#1. Learning about Color

Learning what colors best complimented my skin, eyes, and hair made a huge impact on what I wear!

I read hundreds of blogs about what color season I belong to with my fair skin, mousy brown hair and blue eyes. There was so much information to digest. I was very unsure if I was making correct judgments, so I finally hired an Australian color and style consultant to help me.

When she told me that black was a color to avoid, I almost fainted. I felt like half of my wardrobe was black!

But then I realized that on the days I wore black, I often received comments from (well-meaning) friends like this:

“Oh, Jen, you look so tired.”

“Are you feeling okay today? You’re paler than normal.”

And while I’m sure I WAS tired (what mom of a newborn isn’t?), I realized it was the black clothing close to my face that wasn’t flattering.

Changes in How I Shop

Now that I know what colors look best on me, I have so much more confidence when shopping for clothes!

I don’t buy red or hot pink because they make my skin appear blotchy and uneven. I stick with soft, muted colors and navy blue is my new BFF. Yellows and oranges are out because they bring out yellow in my skin tone. Do you see how life changing this can be?

Learning the colors that are ideal for my skin tone, eyes, and hair was a huge step in switching from frump mode to fashionista!

Personal Color Consultations

In the most common color analysis systems there are twelve different color palettes: three different palettes based on each of the four seasons.

The palettes have names like soft summer, deep autumn, light spring and cool winter. Factors such as undertones in the skin, hair, and eyes are taken into consideration in determining which color palette is best. Also important is understanding value contrast between these same features.

I have learned how to do color consultations for others because I love it so much!

This personal color consultation is one of the things included in the premium version of my online course, The Confident Closet, which is open for enrollment right here.

Personal Color Consultation Giveaway!

As a Mother’s Day gift, I am giving away a free personal color consultation to one lucky mama (that’s a $55 value by the way!)! To enter the drawing, just fill out the form below:

#2. Learning about Body Shape

The next step from switching from frump mode to fashionista was learning what clothes looked best on my body shape.

As a mom of five, my body had gone through so many different changes for an entire decade!

While most women’s clothing is manufactured for the “ideal” hourglass shaped woman, the majority of women are not that shape at all!

This is why the hunt for the perfect pair of jeans feels like searching for a needle in a haystack!

There are many different classifications used to describe the main female body shapes. You may have heard other women describing themselves as a pear, apple, or banana shape.

Why fruit? I have no idea.

In my opinion, the best body shape analyses are based on actual shapes: rectangle, triangle, circle, inverted triangle, etc.

Changes in How I Dress

Learning that I am rectangle-shaped meant that I started half-tucking in my shirts or wearing a skinny belt to accentuate the fact that I do have a waist line! I now choose coats and dresses with belts. V-necks are most flattering on me, as well as any top that adds some volume around my bust.

Understanding how to dress for my body shape has been incredibly helpful. It was a matter of taking measurements correctly and spending some time to learn what is most commonly recommended for my shape.

The body shape analysis and color consultation were by far the most important things in helping me gain confidence in how I dress.

And it has been super helpful to these amazing ladies who have participated in The Confident Closet as well:


If you are interested in creating a wardrobe that focuses on your unique personal style and identifying your body shape and perfect color palette, check out my course The Confident Closet! It is only open for enrollment until May 10, 2020!

#3. Learning a Few Style Tips

Have you ever had those days when you feel like you are just wearing clothes? And other days you really feel like you’re wearing an outfit? There’s a difference, right?!

One of my favorite style tips is also the simplest: The Rule of the Completer Piece.

This means that instead of just wearing a top and a bottom, look to add a third piece to your outfit.

This third piece could be anything, such as a

  • Belt
  • Scarf
  • Chunky or statement jewelry
  • Blazer
  • Cardigan
  • Hat
  • Sunglasses
  • Jacket
  • Coat
  • Vest
  • Or even an extra layer

Here’s a simple visual:

Isn’t that a simple but noticeable difference?

If you are feeling that you want to make the switch from frump mode to fashionista, I’d love to help you do so! Enroll in The Confident Closet and let’s get started! 

You can make the switch from frump mode to fashionista by learning about color, body shape, and a few simple fashion tips

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25 thoughts on “Three Ways to Make the Switch from Frump Mode to Fashionista”

  1. I feel like I am currently making this transition! Especially working from home and having “no reason to get ready” everyday. I have been all over pinterest and online shopping to build myself a wardrobe that helps me feel confident without getting ready for a business meeting each day. Thank you for sharing these tips!

  2. <3 <3 <3! Thanks for sharing these tips especially during this time. Comfy haram's have been my go to during this time🙄. So I totally get it.

  3. I love the idea of the third piece. It makes an enormous difference. Like you said wearing clothes or wearing an outfit. Thanks!

  4. wow this is very fascinating and interesting and now you have me wondering if my black wardrobe needs an update..LOL.

  5. I’ve been putting on a tiny bit of makeup each day, after years of not wearing a drop of it. I’m also trying to occasionally wear ACTUAL clothes, not PJs lol. Not much, but it’s a start! Thanks for these ideas!

  6. I feel like I am stuck in permanent frump mode.
    I’m a jeans and graphic tee kind of gal.
    This pandemic isn’t helping much either lol.
    I will use these tips the next time I need to go buy “real adult” clothes.

  7. I absolutely love this! I need to revamp my wardrobe. The colors really hit home because I have items that looked cute when I bought them but do no justice for me personally!

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